What is kink? We’ve all heard the term, and maybe we’ve indulged, but what is it, really? According to Dictionary.com, kink, /n/, “is a twist or curl, as in a thread, rope, wire, or hair, caused by its doubling or bending upon itself.” Metaphorically I supposes that’s valid in our context.
Back in the day, by which I mean the late 80s, before the Internet became the biggest avenue through which to market sex, I observed kink defined more generally, as a sexual experience beyond a framework one would generally consider appealing or arousing. Now, though, that’s all quite changed.
Wikipedia defines kink as ” a range of practices: spanking, tickling, bondage, dominance and submission, sadomasochism (BDSM), cuckoldry and sexual fetishism.” I find it intresting that not too long ago, anal sex and golden showers were deviant behaviours. Now, not are they the pr0n of the new garde, they are pretty commonplace. As porntrepeneur John Stagliano put it back in 2001 in his industry-shifting interview, “Pussies are bullshit.” Stagliano went on to express how just watching women have sex no longer carried the industry. Purveyors wanted their kink more dark, and in many cases, more violent.
I don’t think kink has to be dark or violent, but I do think it’s about expression of the shadow, the hidden desires. A friend calls it “speaking to the monster.” To me the point of kink is you can’t prescribe what it is one person to the next, or how folks will respond to stimulation by… anything.
What does ‘kink’ mean to you? How has it changed from your vantage point of erotica and the hidden?
If you like your shadows dark and shiftery, and your kink hardcore and pushing boundaries, learn more about Book One of The Scattered Dark Series, Journal of a Lycanthrophile, my new paranormal gay kink release from Fierce Desires, on the series Facebook page.
On Journal of a Lycanthrophile…
Jesse Holloman has a fetish for justice and a kink for werewolves. Together, his passions spiral to a world of pain, shadow desires, and an even more sinister, secretive sort of shapeshifter—the kind that changes without shifting.
Remember, it’s only kinky the first time.
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I like it. It’s only kinky the first time. Bahahaha! Thanks for being in the Holiday Blog hop! I really enjoy the holiday season. I enjoy the smells, the food and lights. Oh and the music too. Not much into baking anymore. But I do enjoy tasting, ask my scales. Tee Hee. Great blog. roya-clan@sbcglobal.net
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I think kink is what you make it:)
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I am currently on a paranormal kink…er kick!
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Thanks for the great giveaway and for hopping along with us!! I like my kink on the darker, shadowy side. I also think kink is what you make it!
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Kink has been around for a long time (speaking from experience) — it’s just more publicly acknowledged and talked about now.
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when i think of kink i just think of fetishes everyone has a little something different they like having there toes sucked to getting a spanking i just think of kink as putting those little or big quirks out there so people know they are not alone in there wants and desires.
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